Atheists Have Bad Relationships With Their Fathers

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In my experience with Atheism and atheists, whenever I’ve been able to get a closer look at their personal life, I get greater insight and clarity into why they’re atheists. It has, of course, nothing to do with their arguments but something that’s occurred mostly in their developmental stage from childhood to adolescents.

All of them, (at least the ones I’ve met) have come from a broken family. Their fathers were incredibly cruel and abusive towards them and their mother. Either that, or the Father simply left. Although they might still enjoy a relationship with him, the ideal of a family unit that can stay together has been shattered, and with it, the stain from the wine of this broken family unit stamped on their subconscious forever.

”Oh I have a wonderful relationship with my father who lives apart from me and my mother”. Yeah of course I don’t deny that but your actions now throughout life have proven that the response deep within speaks how you’re really feeling.

Apart from the small number who lay claim to a good relationship, my experience has been different. What about the atheists I’ve met on my journey through life of whose personal circumstances I had intimate knowledge of, really dislike their Fathers and, Why does this lead them to Atheism? Atheism develops a path to the fatherless they’re comfortable with that is why.

God is seen as a ”Father” figure and whether conscious of it or not, the atheist repudiates the idea of calling anyone a ”Father”, therefore he immerses himself in the world of atheism much more readily than he would if he had a good relationship with his Dad.

Imagine, for a moment, being sexually, physically or mentally abused by your Dad, or combination of all three, and having to go in and have a fatherly relationship with God Himself? When you’ve moved from one cruelty to another, and then see these arguments from celebrity atheists showing how cruel the God of the Old testament was to his ”children”, wouldn’t you be tempted to just repudiate fatherhood altogether? It seems, at first instance, the next logical step, having been torn apart in the family home by your biological father.

How on earth can we expect a child to approach the idea of a ”Holy Family”, when he’s experienced a divorced family and nothing but that ideal? When all he sees around him is a culture that accepts the divorced one parent families, or the gay adoption which deprives children of a mother and a father, are we surprised atheism is his adopted belief?

If they experienced this as a child, I really cannot blame a person for turning their back on religion, because the tone for what they perceive to be reality has been set in stone. The damage is done, and when it comes to militant atheists many of whom refuse to bend towards belief when overcome in a debate, what they need is prayer and the Grace of God.

That’s what faith is. It’s not something we gain through logical argument, it’s a gift of God. Logical arguments about God and his existence can often become a good signpost that will help us on the journey, but ultimately it takes a leap of faith to get there. This is something only God will give to the true seeker who has a disposition of openness to the logical arguments being laid before him.

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25 thoughts on “Atheists Have Bad Relationships With Their Fathers

  1. “All of them, (at least the ones I’ve met) have come from a broken family. Their fathers were incredibly cruel and abusive towards them and their mother. Either that, or the Father simply left. Although they might still enjoy a relationship with him, the ideal of a family unit that can stay together has been shattered, and with it, the stain from the wine of this broken family unit stamped on their subconscious forever. ”

    I’m an atheist and my parents have been married for 54 years. My father is great, and probably one of the kindest people I know. So your attempt to claim that all atheists are something has failed. Many christians try this, to claim that some trauma *must* be the cause of atheism. It isn’t for the vast majority of us.

    There are plenty of atheists who have great families and were never introduced to any religion. There are plenty of us who were Christians and then, often after reading the bible, realized that it was no different from any other religion we didn’t believe in. Add to that the lack of evidence for any of the bible events, and that Christians don’t agree on much of anything, and there is little reason to believe any theist.

    In my experience I can ask the same question you do about quite a few of the Christians I know. They have often come from broken famlies, their parents were cruel and abusive, whether it be a father or mother. The idea of a family unit has been shattered and they run to religion to make up for it. That your god is depicted as an abusive father in the bible is your problem.

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    1. It’s obvious that there will be exceptions to the rule like yourself for example, who have a different approach. Although I didn’t clear that up in my blog post, I don’t deny it either. I’m in agreement that there will be many atheists out there with good families. I’ve no statistics but I’m just speaking from personal experience having come to know many through my life.

      Yes many Christians have often come from broken families too and managed to overcome the temptation to Atheism congratulations to them.

      I don’t want to get into a discussion on the God of the old testament, but only to say that the fact that many atheists under the banner of communism for example, who murdered more people in the last 100 years than any religious war in the history of the planet (these are statistical facts) is also a problem for atheists. Ultimately on a state level that’s where atheism leads for all their talk about how moral they are.

      Thanks for the comment.



  2. You’ve had a rather strange experience. The overwhelming majority of atheists I know– including myself– come from normal, loving families. Those who come from broken homes are no more statistically common than my Christian friends who come from broken homes.

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    1. It’s not that they’ve come from broken homes only that’s the issue here, but more or less why they chose atheism over Christianity and so the broken home explains that. The broken home also helps explain why many overcame the temptation to atheism and chose Christianity instead. I would be interested in seeing the statistics and have a scientific poll done in order to delve more into what I see as an apparent phenomenon. We can sit here all day and try and outdo one another in our experiences but until we actually get to the bottom of whose at the greater loss here, then we ourselves are at a loss at least when it comes to figures. However because Atheism is more popular than Christianity in the mainstream, I’m willing to do some shadow boxing here and risk saying that more atheists come from broken homes.


      1. I’d also be interested in such a study.

        That said, even if there was a strong correlation, it still wouldn’t really mean much. The origin of a person’s ideas are not indicative of the validity or truth of those ideas– to claim otherwise is to commit a genetic fallacy.

        For example, consider a person who was struggling terribly in life sought solace in Christianity. Now, let’s say some vitriolic anti-theist sees this person and says, “See? Christianity is just a crutch for people who can’t seem to find hope for themseleves. Obviously it is wrong!” I’m sure you would agree with me that such a claim is fallacious and altogether useless in rational conversation.


      2. We are not talking about what is true and what is not true when it comes to Christianity and Atheism, only the ”why” they chose it over the other and vice versa. Then, as I argued, because we both have no stats on who is at a greater loss, I’d like to take the risk to say Atheism would be, as it’s more popular in the mainstream and therefore more likely to be chosen over Christianity.

        That’s it really…the ”why” is the focus here, not the origins which would lead to the validity of atheism.


      3. Atheism is “more popular in the mainstream?!” How can you possibly justify that comment? We make up a tiny portion of the population, we are hardly represented in government, television tends to portray us as curmudgeonly misanthropes, and even in more liberal areas of the US we frequently experience prejudice and misunderstandings.


      4. You make up the tiny proportion of the population but the mainstream media has made Dawkins and Hitchens absolute celebrities. Their books were best sellers and pushed by the mainstream while they shunned the books and authors who countered their arguments. Christians make up a majority here in Ireland yet it’s the small population of irreligious that are in control of how we receive information what gets popular and what doesn’t. Therefore the idea that because you don’t make up the larger part of the population doesn’t make you unpopular.


      5. Do you have any evidence that Atheists “choose” to be Atheists, as opposed to arriving at their position organically and logically? I have never met one! You are either convinced, or you’re not. I am not convinced. 😳


      6. As I stated in my blog post, my experience is based upon personal experience. I would also like to clarify that psychological factors are only one component of many towards choosing atheism or any path in life. Therefore, people trying to work it out intellectually becomes yet another component in the process of choosing ones path in life. Psychology makes up the entire human and plays a part in life choices. The idea, then, that we can reach a certain point without that part of us being involved would be a fallacious position to take.


      7. Ahh…. So, with your finely honed psychological abilities, you are aware that people only accept belief systems after considerable unconscious conditioning. No-on can ‘Choose’ to believe in anything, Atheism or otherwise, any more than they can ‘choose’ to be left-handed. The only choice they can make, is to pursue or manufacture information which justifies their already extant position.
        This means that the blame for the existence of Atheists can be laid at religious believers who can/do not provide coherent arguments or convincing evidence. Right! I got it now – and I feared that you were just proffering unfounded opinions, for which you had no proof. 🙄


      8. They still make choices during the conditioning process so your intent to reinvent the wheel and play the self styled philosopher isn’t working . People choose to believe in Jesus or they choose not to. How they arrived at that choice doesn’t undo the choosing.


      9. If that judgemental, moral superiority makes you feel good about yourself and your faith, keep believing it.
        If your cat has kittens in the barn, you can call them horses, but you shouldn’t try to ride them, 😯


      10. Go back to playing your Xbox and raiding your mother’s fridge Archon, this immature conversation with someone who thinks they’ve it all figured out has come to close having failed to respond with adequate responses. Have a good day.


  3. Your on a roll of 0-fers My father is wonderful and we have always been close. The atheists I do know that are generally estranged from their family because of the rejection of religion, not the other way around. You care to know why I’m an atheist? Contradiction, cruel and divisive morality, fallacy, and the infinite hairsplitting excuses that are in fact “illogical” not logical unless you’ve already presupposed there is a god and your set on proving it. Faith is born of insecurity, weakness, and fear. A lot of people need that comfort…right up until they don’t. But most lack the integrity to just say they don’t believe because they are years into making excuses for faith.
    When are you going to learn to trust yourself? You’ve been doing life a line all this time anyway. There is nothing to fear. Ever!

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    1. Yes, many atheists who have not had bad relationships with their fathers will be eager to respond. If you care to look at my other comments I’ve addressed this. There are always going to be an exception to the rule, I won’t argue that it’s general knowledge.

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      1. Well, the title of your post is misleading. Poor Paternal relation is much more indicative of someone looking for religion. Lack of self worth, confidence, and submission, turning to a presumed higher power are traits of the uncertain, unloved that lack esteem. That would be due to a poor relationship with their father. I know several Christians who still struggle with their fathers even after they are dead. Your little study is a sweeping generalization based on faulty perception.

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    2. It’s not a coincidence that Texas has a 92% Christian population and is also the worlds leader in Mass Shootings? China and Japan have Christian populations of less than 2%, a much larger populations and have never, never had a single Mass Shooting.
      It’s hardly a surprise then that truly moral people have to reject Christianity for purely ethical reasons? The truth is Christians don’t and never want to discuss critical, rational facts about what makes them so violent, narcissistic and sociopathic….in fact they delude themselves and instead choose to miss direct the arguments against them like the argument of this post~Pure Stupidity!
      In any event science has conclusively proven that no God exists since they revealed proof that space is flat and so the Universe is Infinite and Eternal. An Infinite and Eternal Universe has never been created…..No God! The end of your bullshit make believe stories

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  4. Another question.
    Would you allow non Christians or atheists to define why people accept Christianity? Prob not. Best to allow people to speak for themselves, rather than trying to generalize for them.


  5. What a strange claim in the title of the post. Is there any empirical evidence to back it? Or is it just your “sense” in the atheists you’ve met? Might we be able to query these “atheists” to see how you came to your conclusions?


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